We are exposed to so much information, which can be misleading or create misconceptions. Deep knowledge about sex is important not only to understand ourselves but also to prevent harm to others or ourselves and to be safe. Unfortunately, even after so many years of existence we tend to criticize what we do not understand. Schools or parents do not educate preteens and young adults well enough (or at all) in order to prepare them for this part of their life. That is why shame is prevalent and why many people are hesitant to express themselves. It is fascinating how such a biological drive can affect our decision making process. Suppressed feelings can alter our behavior unconsciously. It is a fact that when people repeatedly engage in sexual behaviors, urges or fantasies, they might actually respond to a stressful situation or to a dysphonic mood state like depression or shame; or even boredom. Sex is often used as an escape from reality.

Sex is connected with so many areas of our life. Our self-esteem, our social or professional life and our emotional regulation are impacted. We could enjoy sex so much with someone that it could make us extremely jealous; or we could be having unsatisfying sexual relations with someone and be afraid of letting them know. This could lead to seeking unhealthy alternatives, boredom or even frustration. Most secret affairs are created because we are afraid of working with our partner on issues such as communication, novelty, excitement, or experimentation. We find it easier to blame our partner, or by projecting our insecurities and, thus, end up denying our part of the responsibility. Our well-being depends on our relationships and intimate relationships need effective communication.