We are exposed to so much information that it can be misleading or create misunderstandings. Deep knowledge about sex is important not only to understand ourselves, but also to prevent hurting someone or ourselves and finally to be safe. Unfortunately, even after so many years of existence, we tend to criticize what we don't understand. Schools and parents do not educate pre-teens and young adults well enough ( or at all) to prepare them for this part of their lives. This is why there is so much shame and many people are hesitant to speak out. It's fascinating how this biological drive can influence the decision-making process. Suppressed emotions can change our behavior subconsciously. The fact is, when people repeat sexual behaviours, urges and fantasies it may simply be their response to a stressful situation or a state of distress such as depression or shame. Sex is often used to escape from reality.

Sex is connected to so many aspects of our lives. Our self-esteem, our social and professional life and emotional self-regulation are affected. We may enjoy sex with someone so much that it makes us extremely jealous; or we may have unsatisfactory sexual relationships with someone and be afraid to tell them. This could lead to seeking unhealthy alternatives, cause boredom or even upset. Most parallel relationships are created because we are afraid to work with our partner on issues such as communication, innovation, enthusiasm or experimentation. We find it easier to blame our partner or project our insecurities and therefore deny our share of responsibility. Our well-being depends on our relationships and personal and sexual relationships need effective communication.